Ontological coaching is a
particular approach to understanding what is at the heart of how people
function, learn and change. The OC approach is that learning and change does
not only happen through our language: an integral part in how we function is
also through our emotions and our body - the dynamics of our posture, how we
are in our emotions and how we manage ourselves emotionally. The three areas Language,
Emotions and Body make up who we are as a person, our Way of Being; and shape
how we perceive the world and our behaviour. If we are going to help people
make a significant change, then we have to address all three domains.
Alan Sieler suggests that
most approaches to change don’t do that – they focus on one of perhaps two
domains and I agree. OC is the only approach I have come across that explicitly
recognises not just the importance of each domain but the importance of the
integration of each of the domains and that all three need to change if someone
is to engage in what we might call sustainable or deep change. This process is
deeper than behaviour. OC is interested in whether what is happening in people’s
perceptions and attitudes is going to allow then to use new skills and strategies.
If we don’t address what are often deep seated perceptions and attitudes (most
of which can be out of our awareness) then we are going to miss opportunities
to help people change.
People’s Way of Being (and
how they function in Language, Emotions and Body) is where their perceptions and attitudes live. This is where,
as an ontological practitioner/coach I work respectfully with people to help
them discover ways in which they can open themselves up and find new ways of
communicating and behaving so it is beneficial for them and those they deal
with.
In summary we must work
with not just how people language a situation, we must work with a person’s
whole Way of Being – this is at the heart of how people function, learn and
change to get better results both personally and professionally.